What to talk about on online dating sites
We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, Ok Cupid.Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant.The result: a set of rules for what you should and shouldn’t say when introducing yourself. Let’s go: Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs.Our negative correlation list is a fool’s lexicon: was also a successful word, but much less so (33%).Scientifically, this is because it’s a little evil sounding.So, in short, it’s okay to laugh, but keep the rest of your message grammatical and punctuated.
There are many words on the effective end of our list like (double yes!) that are all clearly referencing something important to the sender, the recipient, or, ideally, both.Talking about specific things that interest you or that you might have in common with someone is a time-honored way to make a connection, and we have proof here that it works.We’re presenting just a smattering: in fact every “niche” word that we have significant data on has a positive effect on messaging., no doubt because of its adverbial meaning of “to a fair degree; moderately” also helps male messages.