Spam and dating service
Here in the Weird Alternate Future, the internet has proven, despite its serious problems, to be something of a gender leveller.
There remains a lot of ingrained sexism in internet culture, and some screaming misogynists hiding behind anonymity, but there are also a lot of places where the everyone-is-text phenomenon allows men and women to enjoy a more nearly level playing field than ever before.
There is, however, one phenomenon online that is so strictly and so heavily gendered that it is a source of much bafflement to many.
So on average, it’s a pretty good strategy in a Tragedy of the Commons kinda way.…having the pressure on you to make the initial approach is incredibly difficult.
It involves putting a lot of your ego on the line, just laying bare your sense of self and sticking a big KICK ME sign on it. As I’ve written before, having the pressure on you to make the initial approach is incredibly difficult.
It involves putting a lot of your ego on the line, just laying bare your sense of self and sticking a big KICK ME sign on it.
This point is impossible to overemphasize, because it’s where a lot of this weird male behavior comes from.
Let’s say I take the time to carefully read the profiles of five women, and craft five individual messages to them. I too enjoy killing things, and while I’ve never tried ducks, I bet it’s a lot of fun.Perhaps we could get coffee sometime and twist the heads off some canaries to get to know each other?” Now when I don’t hear back from any of those five, that is a genuine, personal, very specific rejection.It is a rejection of me in particular, based on the very best effort I could make.