This story was originally published by the school newspaper at Townsend Harris High School and is now being presented on the Daily News website as part of the Newsies!high school journalism competition for articles from 2015.Runner-up, Feature Writing Eleven years ago, The Classic conducted a poll to determine the general opinions of students on interracial dating.As a concept that is still prevalent among Harrisites, we conducted a similar poll and series of interviews to see what has changed and what has stayed the same.
Jillissa said, “I think people get excited to see a progressive, mixed race couple. There are, of course, those few friends that say something a little rude unintentionally every now and then.” On the other hand, Adam felt the pressures from his family regarding his choice of partner, and said, “I’ve gotten criticized by my family, especially since they’re very traditional Europeans, who, not to paint them in a bad light, aren’t the most tolerant people. Rodriguez tied the knot, her parents were very accepting of their decision. Yan strayed from her parents’ preferences when it came to her dating life, 71% of polled students said they would date someone of a different ethnic background even without their parents’ consent.
I feel judged, but, most explicit comments are positive ones usually just saying that we’re cute and such.” English teacher Katherine Yan has also experienced challenges throughout her relationship with her husband Sebastian Rodriguez, who is of Uruguayan heritage. Yan’s parents adamantly encouraged her to marry “a Chinese doctor.” However, living in New York City enabled them to gain a greater exposure to cultural diversity. This number shows a significant degree of student independence and even temerity when it comes to picking a partner, but members of the remaining 29% have a wide range of reasons for obeying their parents.
Some teens fear that going against their parents’ ideal preferences would risk their filial relationship.
In such a situation, they often have to choose which is more important: attraction and chemistry or parent approval.
Commenting on whether she would be involved in a relationship even if her parents disagreed, Junior Maya Adut responded, “I wouldn’t date someone if my parents didn’t agree because I wouldn’t want to hurt them.” Senior Eva Jiang shared that whereas her mom would most likely agree with a partner of a different ethnic background, she said that her dad would most likely shake his head in silent disapproval.
Freshman Jayda Persaud said, “If my parents thought that something wasn’t good for me, I wouldn’t do it because my parents are usually right.” Junior Dina Goodger, on the other hand, told of her parents’ vehement opposition to her dating someone of a different race, but said that she would go against their wishes to date whomever she wished.