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Getting the man you want to propose -- and then turning that proposal into an actual wedding date -- can be a tougher deal to close than a media merger.Of course, if you've been following The Rules (the set of dating guidelines outlined in our book, The Rules: Time Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr.Right, Warner Books, 1995) from the moment you met Mr.Right and he's said he loves you, he will propose -- sometimes in a matter of a few months but usually within 15 months.(He may have his own rules about dating for four seasons before popping the question, and there's nothing wrong with that.) Don't Break These Rules Following The Rules means letting him pursue you -- not seeing him more than two or three times a week, refusing to go away with him on weeklong vacations, and not moving in with him or crowding him in any way.
Rules of Engagement If he hasn't asked you to marry him within a year -- or two at the most -- you might have to shake things up a little bit. If he says he has no plans to marry you, say okay and then never see him again. He's not scared of commitment -- he doesn't want to marry you.
Go away for a weekend with a girlfriend, cancel a Saturday-night date, get very busy at work, mention that you are renewing your apartment lease, or be mysterious about some of the things you do. If he says he does plan to marry you someday, but he's not ready yet, then it's up to you to close the deal.
All of the above should make him anxious to propose. Ask him when -- and if it's more than a year away, see less of him and think about dating others.
A man who is wary of commitment is made less wary by a woman moving away from, not toward, commitment. You've already spent more than a year waiting for him to propose. If you are already living together and he says he doesn't want to become engaged, make plans to move out.
But don't say, "I'm moving out because you won't commit." Just say that you need more space and you heard about a great apartment.When a man doesn't want to commit and you do, leave him alone.If he doesn't try to get you back with a proposal, don't waste your time.If he asks what's going on, nonchalantly answer, "I don't know if this relationship is for me." If he can live without you, you don't want him. Dignity-Saving Don'ts Here are five things not to do if he says he doesn't want to marry you, no matter how tempting. Don't tell him you're hurt or mad, and don't reprimand him for leading you on.