Dating a sick person
In the first few blissful months of a relationship, there’s a lot of firsts. “I knew I was sick but I didn’t realise I was that sick,” Yolanda told triple j’s sex and relationship program .“I went to see some specialists, they did some tests and they were like, ‘oh it’s not quite adding up’. For 22-year-old Nathan and 22-year-old Yolanda, there was a lot of that in the first year they started dating. But they’re often not ‘first trip to the oncologist’, or, ‘first round of chemo’, or, ‘first time we found out that I’ve got terminal cancer and only a few months left to live’.
That’s really, really a pretty big issue for most people.”Lea says that people with a terminal illness tend to end up with people who are going through similar struggles.
“A lot of my clients, what they tend to do is date another person with a life threatening illness.
Just cut off their oxygen supply for a few minutes. And would I date a healthy person? Yes I'd pour my heart and soul into it, but if he is very selfish or treats me as lesser just because I am sick, then I, a chronic illness person, would leave him. If there's anything i've learned at all from years of dating, it is to have some respect.… continue reading »
Aug 19, 2013. You're not just a person who is chronically ill. You are a person, and you happen to also be chronically ill. Don't let your disease define your personality. You are so much more than an illness, and when you stop thinking of yourself in that box–others will too. Your illness will limit a lot of things in your.… continue reading »
Jan 7, 2016. How I Learned to Date With a Chronic Illness. I had a great job, I dated easily and freely, I felt healthy for once and then I started to get sick again. If I'm not feeling well on a second or third date, I'll push myself to go anyway and see if I can have fun with the person, without letting them know I'm not.… continue reading »
I am TOTALLY the kind of person who would leave a BRAND-NEW relationship because the other person is constantly sick. Now, if I'd already grown to love the guy and he BECAME sick, it's different. But why would anyone CHOOSE a sick person ie, a person who's automatically more trouble to be with.… continue reading »
Oct 13, 2017. I realized that because I'd changed the way I approached dating, raising my standards and waiting to find someone who could meet them, I'd matured as a person. It gave me the chance to get to know the person I'd grown into as an ill, lesbian, post-college adult. Despite the hardships I'd encountered in my.… continue reading »
But what if you find out that your partner is terminally ill; then the very essence of hope and future inherent in dating clashes with imminent pain, separation and death. And yet dating is also about having fun and enjoying oneself with a like-minded partner – something which you can do with a terminally ill person too.… continue reading »